Office Bullies – How to Deal with them?
If you’re out of high school and think that bullying is over. You’re so wrong. High school bullies may look like a good friend when compared to office bullies. They are dangerous and may make your workplace a hell. Good news is that, you’re grown up and can figure out a way to stand up against them. A office bully unlike you school nemesis, will pose as a well wisher, but looks for every opportunity to put you down. To deal with them the best way – you need to be aware of them.
Mostly, they are in an authoritative position, who try to humiliate you in every possible way. They find mistakes in anything you do and never fail to point your mistakes out loud to humiliate you in from of others. They find satisfaction in making you feel small and helpless.
The best way to deal with them is not to react. If you get upset or angry and make those emotions obvious to them, they are going to thrive on it. Just keep calm and report to the right authority if you feel your self-respect is at stake.
These types of bullies have a cutthroat attitude to come up on the top. They will go to any extent to ensure their success, and will hurt you badly when they see you as a competition.
You need to handle them with confidence. Own your work, and make sure that your reporting authority knows what you’ve done to get the credit.
They are very dangerous as they pose like your buddy at work. When it comes to tough situation they change their color faster than a chameleon to save their own skin. You’ll not see the real them until you become the victim. Sometimes you need to pay a high cost to becoming a prey!
When you identify one, stay away. If the person is your peer, whom you need to work with on a daily basis, just start keeping accounts of the circumstances and if possible list the names of those who were present at the time.
Everybody loves to gossip at work. But, you need to be really careful with whom you’re going to share the little secrets. Gossipers, often, tend to share news with you to show that they’re friendly, but always have a hidden agenda. They try to pose like your good friend and if you share your personal life with them, they are going to assassinate your character. They modify, alter, and at times, add their own version to your story to defame you behind your back.
If someone gossips with you, it means they are going to gossip about you. Maintain professionalism and discourage gossiping. Take to those you think are trustworthy and keep the topics official.
Lastly, don’t be a bully, be a buddy!